• On this site, you’ll find resources for trans & nonbinary people with histories of relational trauma in their families of origin. These resources were developed and/or compiled by two therapists (doctoral candidate Joonwoo Lee and psychologist Sebastian Barr), based on their multi-year research project.

Read our free zine, developed from years of research and collaboration with fellow survivors.

Resources for Healing & Recovery

  • Queer and Trans Community

    Connecting with trans and queer communities was key to participants’ healing. It helped them redefine love, access pride, learn healthier relationship skills, validate parental harm, and better understand trauma and oppressive relationships.

  • Actualizing Trans Identity

    Actualizing trans identity is the ongoing process of living more fully and authentically, aligning inner truth with outer expression. This process helped participants attune to their needs, strengthen their sense of self, and break from parental expectations.

  • Distancing

    Participants shared that setting boundaries with harmful parents (and in some cases estranging from them) was essential to their healing.

  • Individual Healing Work

    Many participants also found healing through processing trauma and receiving validation in individual healing contexts, such as therapy.