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On this site, you’ll find resources for trans & nonbinary people with histories of relational trauma in their families of origin. These resources were developed and/or compiled by two therapists (doctoral candidate Joonwoo Lee and psychologist Sebastian Barr), based on their multi-year research project.
Read our free zine, developed from years of research and collaboration with fellow survivors.
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Between 2022 and 2025, over 150 trans and/or nonbinary (TNB) people shared their experiences of relational trauma from parental figures with us. We interviewed 15 of them in-depth, learning both how they were impacted by their parental figures and began to heal from the harm.
We spent hundreds of hours carefully reading through each interview together, identifying themes to organize them into visual diagrams and theories. After this, we connected back with our participants to seek their feedback.
These collective processes guided our creation of a theory on how trans people heal from relational trauma with parental figures. This journey included many tears and also laughter with our participants, and we’ve had the immense privilege of bearing witness to our community’s pain and power.
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This zine holds a major part of what we’ve come to understand through our collective research process: specifically that transness is an asset to healing from these traumas.
While we are currently writing multiple journal articles based on this research, we don’t want what we’ve learned to just be trapped inside academic spaces. We want everyone to have access to knowledge about our healing and strengths.
We also believe in art’s capacity to deliver the emotional depth of our community stories, so we commissioned multiple new art pieces by the artist Britchida inspired by our research, and invited participants to contribute their own healing-focused art. Those pieces are included in this zine.
Resources for Healing & Recovery
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Queer and Trans Community
Connecting with trans and queer communities was key to participants’ healing. It helped them redefine love, access pride, learn healthier relationship skills, validate parental harm, and better understand trauma and oppressive relationships.
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Actualizing Trans Identity
Actualizing trans identity is the ongoing process of living more fully and authentically, aligning inner truth with outer expression. This process helped participants attune to their needs, strengthen their sense of self, and break from parental expectations.
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Distancing
Participants shared that setting boundaries with harmful parents (and in some cases estranging from them) was essential to their healing.
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Individual Healing Work
Many participants also found healing through processing trauma and receiving validation in individual healing contexts, such as therapy.